The influence of grief on the deceased

- 40 - welfare of their partners during their terrestrial life. But the voluntary letting go of a loved person, or even a less loved person, is often very difficult for various reasons. My husband was diagnosed of having a pancreatic carcinoma ten years ago. As we were both doctors, we knew that difficult times were ahead. We drew our strength from our faith and we learned to recognise the amount of spiritual help that flowed to us after we would pray ‘thy will be done!’ with the greatest conviction. We experienced a lot of inner enrichment during that time and I am grateful for being able to look after my husband at home. I had closed my own praxis for the last four weeks so that I could accompany my husband undisturbed to the threshold of his ‘great journey’. My husband was mentally prepared to let go of his terrestrial life in order to return once again to the world of spirit. He was certain that I would lovingly be with him, but that I wouldn’t hold him back. To let someone go, so that they can go and spiritually progress is the last service of love that one can do for a loved one. I am certain that my mental attendance has made it easier for my husband to find his way ‘over there’ . And I thank God that I was able to keep my promise to mentally let him go to his ascent. Peace and harmony entered my soul soon after. I changed nothing in my flat, I sleep in the bed of my deceased husband and I retain the long established order on his desk. Whenever I have a technical problem at home, I am certain that the correct ‘impulse’ for how one can make things easier comes from ‘over there’ . The spiritual entity I had the good fortune of being connected to for 34 years in this incarnation is always a dear, welcome guest in my house, one that is never coerced in any way, one that has a free hand to do things or not. The way we respected the individual self-reliance of each other during our so-called lifetime is the way we respect one another now also. Now that I am retired I still try to help those that are left behind, for instance elderly patients, to responsibly let go of something that God has entrusted in us as a loan. And as I have experienced the same fate myself, they believe me. I can thereby provide some help to them so that the deceased are finally let go. As modern people we only rarely engage in what is called a genuine death culture. Death is repressed in clinics with technical means. But all the inconsolable and the displacers will quite often not admit to themselves that they will also have to discard their own physical shell sooner or later and they will then be not too pleased to find that they are being held back themselves. Let us hope that a gradual rethink takes place. I wish you all the best for the benedictory work that you do. Kind regards Your Dr. K. R. 25. Bibliography (1) B. Cyriax: "Wie ich ein Spiritualist geworden bin", Verlag Oswald Mutze, Leipzig 1893 (2) M. Gallo: "Der Schwarze Freitag der SA", Verlag Fritz Molden, Wien 1972 (3) J. Greber: "Der Verkehr mit der Geisterwelt Gottes, seine Gesetze und sein Zweck", Johannes Greber Memorial Foundation, Teaneck, U.S.A., 10. Aufl. 1987, beziehbar durch Oskar Bareuther, Blumenstr. 67, D 73033 Göppingen (4) A. Kardec: "Der Himmel und die Hölle oder die göttliche Gerechtigkeit", Verlag Karl Siegismund, Berlin 1890 (5) R. Lees: "Reise in die Unsterblichkeit", 2 Bände, Drei Eichen-Verlag, München, 3. Aufl. 1964 (6) E. Mattiesen: "Das persönliche Überleben des Todes", 3 Bände, Verlag Walter de Gruyter, Berlin 1936-39, Neuaufl. 1962 u.1987