The influence of grief on the deceased

- 39 - Greetings in the name of God! Stanislaus.” 23. Conclusions for the Bereaved What conclusions can one come to from these happenings? • A powerful connection between mother and child can prevent the spiritual development of the deceased son for many years beyond his physical death. One must consider the fact that Norbert, who departed our Earth in 1988, would have been already 22 years old according to our terrestrial yardsticks. The way he expressed himself that evening however indicates the level of a thirteen year old , his age when he died. This fateful bond apparently also raised sympathy in the world of the hereafter, so that higher authorities instigated this impressive meeting on the 26 th of August 1988. We would normally have regarded such a strange interaction as a “coincidence”. The strong mother child bond is naturally not the only thing that can hinder the further progress of the deceased in the hereafter (as well as here on Earth), any other exaggerated bond in the form of bondage, can do likewise. If you should ever find yourself in a situation where you lose a loved one through death, please act differently from the way it was described in the above chapter. • Do not think so much about yourself and your own pain, but first and foremost about the future welfare and the feelings of the deceased. • Send them lots of thoughts of love and affection, pray for their advancement and arrange your terrestrial life in such a way that you can reasonably expect to see the deceased again after your own demise. 24. The helpful activities of a female Doctor A letter from a German doctor informed me that she helpfully assisted the dying and the bereaved and that she encouraged the latter to leave their deceased relatives in peace. She wrote to me on the 28 th of August 1996: “Dear Professor Schiebeler! I read your article ‘Der Einfluss der Trauer auf Verstorbene’ with great interest. (“Die Andere Realität”, No. 4) As Christian Spiritualists, my now deceased husband and myself have always endeavoured to spiritually assist the dying in our separate practices and then support the bereaved in their attempts to allow those that have gone before them to go in peace and gratitude. We are absolutely convinced that we managed to alleviate the process of separation of the deceased from the exaggerated grief of those they left behind. We held many discussions with the bereaved and we reminded them of their obligation to release the deceased to a better world in the hereafter. They had naturally always been anxious about the