Bringing up children

22 so. The children were often brought up either too puritanical or too authoritarian. Will this ever change? Answer : There will come a time when parents and their children can visit a school in order to discuss sexuality from A to Z, this at an age when the children have the mental maturity to understand everything. Question : The things some pedagogues, parents or educators express is sometimes quite frightening. They are quite often in need of education themselves. One doesn’t even have to have one’s own children to recognise this. Answer : Well, as far as this person is concerned it also lies with the upbringing of its parents and what influences the environment had on it. One really cannot put the blame on them. These souls really couldn’t help it. The parent’s incorrect programming is passed down to the next generation. Therein lays the evil! - Pedagogues learn from their science books, whereby none of these pedagogues really knows what is actually correct. The feelings that are so important are very last on their list. Question : What effects have television and videos on children’s psyche? Answer : It depends on the kind of films these children watch. If we’re dealing with fairytale films with a deeper meaning, narrating stories about justice and the wonderful beauty of the planet, one can allow the children to watch these without being too concerned, because they absorb these very intensively. But what is all too often shown is gruesomely horrible! Please forbear from doing this, because these are negative things. A film with a positive effect can be shown, because it shows the children and adults also, that not everything here on Earth is negative. Question : A very popular style of upbringing used by today’s parents is marked by spoiling the child. What can you tell us about this problem? Answer : These particular parents do not try to take the child into their arms in order to show it that they LOVE it, but instead try to show their LOVE through presents. This is not the correct procedure! Every human being needs to be touched at certain points of contact of the body, demonstrating that it is LOVED. Children feel this type of affection very intensively and it should therefore be handled very intensively . Not just with gentle strokes, but also with playing games and romping around, because this makes for a wonderful development. Question : Is the exchange of roles between parents and children possible? Answer : I have talked about this before; one ought to give children the opportunity to have their say, because this could quite possibly help the parents or any other adults also! Question : For how long should one take a child by the hand?